While NYC was here we could have engaged in a threesome with another woman. But– I did not find myself attracted to the other woman. Physically she was great, in great shape–better than me–but her personality through me off. She was a strong pushy type–which is fine in a friend, but as another woman in bed–it was just not going to work for me.
Actually all threesomes I have engaged in (which is not all too many) with two women have been with one of my close friends and then together we find the cock to play with.
I can deal with a dominate cock, but a dominate pussy–I don’t think so. I am not sure I could submit to another woman, particularly in a MFF threesome. A nice smooth, curvaceous, soft, quite, shy submissive girl would be nice though– more of my equal.
Threesomes with two men have been easier to come by than with another woman. For me there is a jealousy factor I contend with—something I am always contending with in one form or another. I am such a jealous woman it is ridiculous. I wonder if is indicative of a woman’s personality–to be jealous? I am even jealous of my male friends mates. I am pretty open about my jealousy trait–because it is really just a ridiculous side of me and I laugh at it myself, but it is truly there.
It would be hard for me to watch my lover kissing and licking another woman’s pussy while I watch or join. Not that I would not let it go and enjoy myself, but the thread of jealousy would still be there. Two cocks just seem easier to me, but not all men are into the idea of two men and me. Me me me me want two cocks!
Would my lover be jealous? Do men get as jealous as women?
I think about monogamy and am quite sure it is not all too possible. If I were to engage in a committed relationship the concepts of polyamory would have to be discussed at the onset and throughout a relationship. How would my jealousy play into this factor?
Is it all just a matter of me being a greedy yet jealous girl–I want your cock and the option to have his too? How will I behave when you want another pussy?
Maybe the solution is to play with another couple. Hmmm? I like the ideas of that. I am sure jealousy would fly about the room, but that it would charge the sexuality rather than hinder it.
I see where you’re coming from. I’ve talked to friends who’d done MFF or wanted to try and they said they’d be jealous if the guy is concentrating on one of them more than the other, even if it’s only a minute.
If you’re in ny again need a 3rd for a MMF, let me know
well put.
While I’ve never engaged in a threesome, I’ve often talked about it, with both a former significant other and with a good friend that’s engaged in multi-play for almost 30 years. The conclusion I’ve come to is this: I’m not wired for the three-way, at least not with someone I truly care about. I’m a one-woman man, and I’m more than okay with that. Also, if I were ever to be in a three-way, I’d have to be the third party: I arrive, I cum, I leave. No attachments beyond whatever got me in that situation in the first place.
I think that, if you’re in a committed relationship with someone, and you’re BOTH not wired for particular extracurriculars, then it should be avoided at all costs. Jealousy can be a monster, and rears its ugly head unexpectedly. If you can’t get past that, perhaps your thought about being that third person is the way to go.
I think the fact that you are asking these questions and aware of how they might play out in any relationship or encounter is the most important thing. This way when jealousy rears its head it’s no surprise to you. Playing with couples, in my experience, eases this factor for me. Hard to be jealous when I’m wrapped up in someone else at the moment. Shared pleasure. That being said it’s nice to be the centre of attention in an MMF threesome… sometimes it’s nice when it’s all about you.
As an accomplished and life-long chicken, I’ve never done a three-way, but I did have some 2-stripper lap dances during my strip club phase (a very expensive phase, I don’t recommend it, just ask Tiger Woods).
With two women dancing above me, and for me, and playing and touching it was deliriously sexy and no sense of competition at all. Granted, it wasn’t sex and I have two hands so I could be fair. I think jealousy is always going to be there unless professionals are involved. For a guy, just hire 2 girls that know what they are doing. Same thing for MMF, if you go for a purely sexual experience you can pull it off, but if you have feelings involved, I don’t really see it turning out very well.
I would love to have a threesome…. sigh. Of some flavor, I don’t really care what the composition is. I don’t know about the jealousy factor; I don’t think it would be an issue for me, but I suppose one doesn’t really know until one is in the situation. I can see, however, how a three-way could be exponentially more complicated than a simple 2-way hook-up.
My sense is that all sexual pleasure requires the partners to take care of each other, but that this obligation increases exponentially in three-and-four-way sex. Pleasure is always different — many times better — with a stranger. It changes things up in the couple. But you have to manage your feelings and responses. Your caution with a dominant partner (male or female) is smart. There’s nothing uglier than two men using a woman’s body to show which one is the biggest stud. On the other hand, two really sensual men can give a woman rare and wonderful pleasure if they work at it. I enjoy sharing Fleur with other lovers, and having them myself: I think we come back to each other with new passion, and, perhaps more importantly, new moves. Even two-way fucking is an art. When you start adding partners you need new skill sets. Thanks for this post.
I never would have guessed that about you.
Why the jealousy? I can onlsy see this happening because of emotion. Other than that, it’s ego, no? Because without attachment, the sex is there for, well, fun. For everyone. Isn’t it?
At least your upfront about your jealousy. A man going in knows what he’s dealing with and should decide if its something he wants to put up with.
Men get much more jealous, in part because they won’t acknowledge it.
Mr. Chien: will do.
wb: thanks love.
MindTricked: it is hard for me to claim that I am wired one way or the other, because I hate to miss out on an opportunity to discover something I may really like, or to enjoy a person, to enjoy life and sex. Though, love is what I truly desire, a mate, a companion, someone to lay my head down next to at the end of each day–with that may come a level of commitment I would have to accept and cherish–that I may not understand at this particular moment. I don’t know if I even understand what I just said. Anyway–thank you for the read. xoxo.
Her Dirty Little Heart: thank you for the read and the opinion– very valuable. I am liking the idea of MMF, it has been too long. I am also interested in the idea of a couple. thanks for the share, loving your blog and your Vacay updates.
advizor54: yeah, I dont think jealous would be a factor in a sexual act you are paying cash for. I agree that once emotion is involved we cannot as easily control such feelings and jealousy.
elsie: i am not sure how my jealousy would play out in a threesome that was more of my choosing, but I am willing through it should it arise.
Papi50: thank you for your comment. I could go for two sensual men. yes please, where is the line for that ride? Your approach to sex is a welcome one.
Topaz: oh yes, it is such a ridiculous emotion for me, i know. I have both–much emotion and–yes, much ego. It is not something I like about myself, but it is also something I deal with and am very open about with the men I am involved with. If I were to be in a more serious relationship monogamy/polyamory and jealousy would certainly have to be spoken on–particularly on my part.
Soul Powers: hiya sweets, yes–there is so much to up with a girl like me, but I like to think I’m worth it.
Sensual Vancouver: yes I think it is true.
Not rediculous – I think it’s great to feel to that degree. I’m not completely immune to jealousy. I would think anyone who claims to be is lying to themselves.
But like you, also mark me as extremely high on the emotional scale and the ego scale. But mine translate into seeing a partner as a challenge – if there ever was a third (or if I was a third for another couple), I would want to make her eyes roll back in her head, and make her like it. No matter what the man/men do to her after that, I want to be sure she’s gonna remember me.
Not pretty either, but hey, that’s my ego (or shall we say… confidence…?) at play…
Topaz: oh my dear no one could forget you. yummy.
awwww Vixen, i think you forgot about me? (consider me?)
you have my number.
you couldn’t be jealous of me in a 3some? i’d make sure
that wasn’t a factor…
oh yes. I do have your number. sounds fun.